How your life can change in an instant

So about a week ago the hubby showed me a bump on his neck. I being the doting wife told him to have a Dr look at it. (he works in a hospital)

Nurse says its a pulled muscle and to put ice on it.

So he does and no change.

So yesterday we go to a hospital to have it looked at because he was going out of town for the week (getting him in a hospital is like pulling teeth) after the 3 hour wait we leave.

We had set the alarms early to get up and go to a different hospital "just in case" because I did not want to wait till he got back to have it checked.

I chalked it up to "its nothing" but he swore it was something worse.

We woke up this morning at 6am and he says "Lets just not go, we can go when we get back"

Me very sleepy say "Ok if you think so"

He goes pee and that little nagging feeling hits me in the gut. I REALLY wanted to stay in the nice warm bed because it was all warm and comfy but I let my gut lead me

"Babe we are already up, lets just go and humor me that its nothing before you are gone for a week, last time I listened to my gut you went in for emergency surgery within hours of me getting you to the hospital"

Off to the hospital we go.

10 minutes in we are checked by a nurse who stated "Oh no worries that's not even where your lymph nodes are"

The Dr comes in says hi and introduces us to her assistant.

She them feels the lump on his neck and you can audibly hear her gasp at the size of it.

The Dr does not say much but tells us he needs a CT scan.

We wait 2 hours after he had to drink this HUGE container of chalky stuff to help the CT scan.

And then after about 30 hour the peppy little Dr pokes her head back in the room

"You have Lymphoma Cancer"

Not the man I love. Not the strongest man I know. Not the man who NEVER gets sick. Not the guy who always teases me about being sick.


Its not even real.

Cancer?

Its still really early and we do not know anything yet we know its Lymphoma we know they "suspect" its hodgkin's lymphoma.

We go for a PET scan on Wednesday and meet with the oncologist tomorrow....

If you pray, if you send good vibes if you want to just keep us in your thoughts....I will take anything you got!!

But the good news is we are both in good spirits. If you can say that. We both know and understand that it is out of our control.

For your viewing pleasure (after all the family had been notified) this is my husbands facebook status :

Randoms Husband has found out that he has Lymphoma....possibly Hodgkins. I will know more by the end of the week after the PET scan. Biopsy next week. Looking forward to the weight loss and cool medication. 33 is looking like the new 70.

One of the many reasons he is my hero...

A little emergency surgery to get the blood flowing..

So Tuesday the hubby texts me he is going home sick.

Ok just a little back filler THE MAN NEVER GETS SICK! Serious in 12 years he has barfed 1 time. He does not take anything for a cold, does not even like to take advil for a headache.

I call him to check in and he tells me his belly hurts.

We both chalk it up to gas, or maybe he just has to poop.

I get home from work and he says

"I think we have to go to the hospital"

So the panic starts, but I try to stay calm, so does he. He says he may just try to sleep it off but the pain in his belly is REALLY bad. (I try to think of how strong I was LAST time)

We error on the side of caution (because we are both worried about another ER bill) but we go anyways.

We shimmy into the hospital and are seen RIGHT AWAY, we did not even have a chance to sit in the waiting room.

We get shown into the room and there are 3 nurses there. All doing different things. We wait a little bit (maybe 20 minutes) for the Dr.

He comes in, does his tests and then says its 1 of 3 things.

Kidney Stones
Gall Bladder
Appendix

And off to a ct scan he goes.

Yep appendicitis. They use words like life threatening and emergency surgery.

We wait a couple of hours for the surgery team to get there, 2 anesthesiologist, 4 nurses and one trauma surgeon everyone was on call.

It was VIP service all the way. The hospital WAS AMAZING! Hands down I have NEVER seen service like this.

He is doing great! They insert CO2 gas into the belly and the gas has moved into his shoulder (completely normal) which has caused him lots of pain but each day is getting better...

But I have had this pit/nausea/panic thing that will not go away? Its so weird, its all done, he's ok but I can not shake this anxiety?

Just before they wheeled him away and I cried like a baby...

And in true blogging fashion we took a picture but he will not let me post it.... Well because I promised not to show the world. He looks so cute!

The 2 loves of my life!

My FAV picture to date of Daisy! She loves her daddy!

The hubby killed it!

The hubby killed my favorite cup.

I almost cried.
If you have one of these you would understand.


I was upset and he explained that he has put it in the dishwasher a million times and no problems...

I explain it needs to be on the top shelf only... and the hubby was all like "Why are you so upset? You can just get another one"

Me "Babe I have had that for a years they sell on Ebay for $80!"

Hubby "What, no way... googles it... Ummm its only $60 on line"

Too funny.

I was upset and bid goodbye in hopes that Starbucks would release more...

AND I GOT A NEW ONE!! I walked into a Starbucks (which is so strange because I can not warrant spending $8 on a drink and VOILA there they were... It was meant to be..

And only $15. So I hope this one last me another few years!

Do you have anything you love and use everyday?

Such a busy weekend!

I worked 57 hours in 4 days.

Yeah I am exhausted!! But its good, it was expected working at 2 restaurants for valentines day weekend!!

But I am over it. I have an earned 2 days off that I am looking forward to spending time with my hubby who I have not seen in 4 days.

No joke! I missed him like crazy.

And Valentines day was our 12 year anniversary of our first date! Wow 12 years!! When did we get so old??

I feel so blessed to have him in my life and I am looking forward to 60 more years : )

My plans today:

1. Watch The Bachelor

2. Read my 80 emails

3. Hot yoga

4. Get the eyebrows waxed (they are OUT OF CONTROL!)

5. Get caught up on blogs!

5. Relax with the hubby

I love surprises!!

Reason 797969678 that I love my husband!

He brings home yummy desserts from lunch!!!


Just the word surprise gets me all excited, he brought home 4 yummy desserts from a luncheon at work. I LOVE sweets!!

Maybe I will clean the bathrooms today....

I got most of the stuff done on my list yesterday.

1. Hair cut Check

2. Dog bath Check

3. Rebate stuff check

I went out to buy the purse. Yeah it was not so hot when I got to touch it.. It was cheaply made and it look cheap and for $30 I could not warrant spending that cash (even though its a birthday present to myself) on something that was not FABULOUS! So the hunt continues for a fabulous new purse, or shoes. Or whatever : )

And we are doing date night tonight we are going to see couples retreat!! I am so excited to see this movie. No worries a full recap when I get back!

Yep, I cried like a baby!

So the hubby left this morning.

And I cried. A lot.

There is a few reasons I was upset and as the day has gone on the reasons are clearer to me.

1. I am going to miss him.

2. Like Crazy.

3. 22 days is a REALLY long time to go without being around your best friend.

4. I wish he was going too.

5. I am a big baby.

6. We are going to be in different country's away from each other for our 6 year wedding anniversary.

Its so strange because I am not really a big crier. Ok that's a lie. But its been a while since I have had a good cry. And I cried.

Not that cute little, a few tears down my face. We are talking SOBBING! I saved him from the sobbing he just saw the ugly tears and sniffling. I waited till he went till I really let it all out.

I am better now and I am SUPER excited for my trip I just wish I was going with my man...

So I figure 4 months is enought time?

So these DVDs and mirror have been sitting in front of the fireplace since we unpacked.. Because the mirror was so heaving I had been waiting for the hubby to put it up but after 4 months I took matters into my own hands...




I am not even going to tell you how many tries it took me to get it onto the wall (the mirror is about 40 pounds) and I had to HOLD IT OVER MY HEAD!

But its done...


And I am pretty damn proud of myself!

So GROSS!!

SO the hubby and I had date day today.. It was a lot of fun. To start the day we went to see that new movie "Fighting"

TERRIBLE MOVIE!! And that is being REALLY forgiving. It was bad. Even with hot men with riped bodies it was so bad. I spent half the movie laughing out loud at the terrible acting and silly plot. I am usually not picky about movies.

This one was B.A.D.

The hubby decided I needed my tires rotated and oil changed (get your head outta the gutters) so we dropped off the car and headed to The Cheesecake Factory. One of my favorite places to eat. I think its more for the Cheesecake then anything.

So we are eating lunch and I go to move my napkin up to my mouth and ITS STUCK!! ITS STUCK TO ALL THE GUM THAT WAS UNDER THE TABLE!!!

EWWWW so gross!!! I tried to take a picture for y'all so you could see all the grossness that I am speaking of. It was disgusting!! BARF!


(not our actual table)

And the server did not make any apologies. Just a new napkin.

Figures

Conversations with the hubby

Story 1:

Me "Hey babe, can you put the laundry from the washer into the dryer? I am too lazy to get out of bed"

Hubby "Sure..... (moments pass) Umm should I hang up this bra for you? So as to not leave you with any more blog materials about how I ruin your shit?"

Story 2:

Hubby "Have you seen that guy at the PT job that you had a run in with?"

Me "Yeah we worked together the other night, you would have been proud of me?"

Hubby "For what?"

Me "Well he asked for help? And the 5 year old in me wanted to rub it in his face that he was a horrible server and he sucked blah, blah but I took the high road. I did what he asked for help with and said nothing more"

Hubby "Wow babe, why did he ask for help?"

Me "Cause he was in the weeds"

Hubby "In the weeds... is that some term you made up? Or is it something known between servers?"

Me "All servers know that term, why would you think I made it up?"

Hubby *snickers* "So if I walked into a restaurant and a server was busy and I asked "Are you in the weeds" they would know what I was talking about?"

Me "YES, they would.. ha ha.. I am going to google it! See In the weeds is on Wikipedia"

Hubby "Just cause its on Wikipedia does not mean its common restaurant verbiage!"

Me "Oh I am SO going to blog about this!"

Did I ever tell you something?

I NEVER clean.

Well its not that I NEVER clean, its just when choosing a husband I seemed to have scored the lottery in husband choosing and HE DOES ALL THE CLEANING!!

Serious.

Vacuums. Baseboards the whole 9 yards.

Oh and he is GOOD... VERY GOOD. He has however been banned from laundry and dishes. Well dishes he WILL NOT DO!! He would eat off of paper plates and forks if we had them in the house. He HATES dishes. And I volunteered to do laundry after a little incident with my bras (what with DD those bitches need to be cleaned properly as to avoid have to spend a million dollars to get new ones that fit again)

It is so seldom that I am even aloud to clean (I do not do it to his specifications) I fought for the right to clean the house today.

Yep and I won.

So what does the wife of the cleaner do on the day she agreed to clean the whole house while the hubby it out.

She sleeps till 7pm!! WTF people. Serious I can not go out and party like I used to...

Off to clean I go!! Oh and the other day the hubby was talking about how he would LOVE a Dyson and I agreed it would be nice and the conversation went like this

Hubby"Babe, we should get a Dyson"

Me "Oh thats a good idea, but $500 for a vacume cleaner? We should wait until we buy our house"

Hubby "It sure would be nice is all I am saying"

Me "Well we have out 5 year anniversary coming up, how about we buy it as a "couples" gift for ourselves!"

Hubby "Babe, serious when are YOU ever going to use it"

"

Ok so what would you do?

I had to leave early this morning for work, we have an early meeting every Thursday. The hubby usually leaves for work earlier than me, its rarely me out the door first...

Anywho...

In my frantic mess to get out of the house I grab my purse, my cell phone off the charger and I am on my way... I notice I have enough time to stop for breakfast and whip out my cell phone just to make sure and notice I have a text message that reads

OMG I HAVE to see you.. meet me in the routunda~

Hummm then I notice THE PHONE IS MY HUSBANDS PHONE AND WHO THE HELL IS TEXTING HIM AT 6:45am saying THEY HAVE TO SEE HIM!!

So I take a breath and think of my next move~~ (I must add that my ears ARE SMOKING) and the crazy, psycho women that lies in all of us came to the surface!!!

Don't look at me like that you know what I am talking about...

Yeah her...


I do what any rational women would do and call home just in time to catch him and "inquire" as to who is texting him from a (832) area code?

He of coarse had NO IDEA, who or what I was talking about. And then worried that he needed his phone for the day and asked how far I was...

Well seeing I was almost to work FREAKING THE HELL OUT (because you have all seen it in the movies or on TV that when a man is cheating and lying to his wife she is usually to naive to notice, that or she is cheating herself.....)

Anyways I digress... When I get to work I text THIS BITCH who is texting my husband that she needs to see him!

Me "Who is this?"

"Oh is this not Saia?"

Me "No"

"Oh my bad"

Me "You still did not say who this was"

"Its Dennis"

So the rational calm women in me thinks "Oh that's smart, nice cover up bitch pretending to be a man so I am off your sent"

I google the phone number to see where it was coming from. (Crazy I know)

Then.... I call from my toll free number from work and sure enough a man named Dennis picked up....

So umm yeah... Wrong number...

And then the hubby comes to pick up his phone and I quickly confess to my crazy shenanigans with the texts and phone calls... And yeah.... I was a crazy lady for about an hour...

He found this VERY amusing to say the least, so he gets his phone and starts flipping through it to see the texts I sent and that were sent back.

And he realizes this (me )crazy bitch erased them because I was trying to hide the evidence of how stupid and jealous (we are talking HUGE jealous and that is SO not like me!) I was at the time....

And then he jokes back with me

"Thanks for my phone, that girl is good I have to go so I can call Denise back"

Jackass... But I love him.

Yeah!! The hubby is home today

I have not seen him yet but I will tonight after my shift. Its so weird how much I miss him when he is gone.
Daisy also sort of mops around although she certainly is treated with lots of walks and treats.
Its so funny I should take a video of home excited she gets to go outside, you would think we kept her locked in a cage.. Actually I am going to take that video for all your viewing enjoyment....

I miss the hubby...

He is in Atlanta for the week for work. And today because of the time change and the fact that he is in meetings all day we have not been able to talk.
And I miss him.
So does Daisy, she sat up last night until almost 3am in her bed by the door to see if he would come home, when he did not she finally got into bed with me, it almost seems like she is moping around too.. Do you think she misses him? Its so strange I have even spoiled her with extra walks and even took her in the car today to "lift" her mood....
He'll be back Friday night so only 3 more sleeps!!!

What's that??

Hubby "Whats that why are you looking at me like that??"

Mw "What? That's my sexy look? I am giving you sexy eyes..."

Hubby "Babe you need to work on your sexy look, that looks more like a "your not getting any look""


Gotta love the honesty in our relationship...

My dog hates me

I just gave her a bath. And now she is giving me the silent treatment.

Conversation with the hubby

Hubby "She needs a bath she stinks"

Me "Well, why do you not give her a bath so it's not always me doing it"

Hubby "I give her baths, I have given her 2 baths"

Me "We have had her almost a year"

Hubby "Well this way you look like the bad guy"

Reason 154678 We could never have kids......

Reason 58709709 I love my husband

He sent me to the mall.

With his bank card.

And told me to buy shoes.

Nuff said.

Here are the new pretties!!

Whos a little princess?

Yeah thats my car. And thats the hubby cleaning my car with the BIL. Serious how friggin spoiled am I? I LOVE how clean it is and I may even keep it that way.
You can not see it in the picture but you should see all the shit in my trunk. Thats going to take me a whole day to clean out!


Oh and the winner for the car name was from Sal.

Her name is Atomic Betty. (there is a story behind this name that I promise to tell one day...maybe)


Betty with the top up and Atomic Betty with the top down.. Oh yeah I love her, oh and that guy in the picture too.

I LOVE MY CAR! Not to mention it will also be the hottest summer on record out here in Southern California so this car is going to get lots of driving. We are even going to the beach for the first time I am taking Daisy to the dog park they have on a beach. Its going to be so much fun. Me, Jessica and my neighbor Marg are going with our pups.